Dawn Williams | 01 Jan 2011
Hi Denise,
I can relate to all what you have said. You are in the very early stages of greif and it is zapping all your energy. You are running on automatic, just doing what you have to do.Also it is hard to understand how you can feel ok one day and so down the next. It is very hard to visit friends because you are feeling very vulnerable. The Christmas, new year period is a very hard time to get through when a loved is missing. Nobody ever fills that hole in your heart. Birthdays are very hard also especially when you feel like you don’t want to even get out of bed. I am glad you have a job because that gives you a bit on normallity in your life. Surround yourself with people who love you on the 3rd of January. Hopefully the power of love will get you through. It doesn’t matter if your kids see you cry nobody can be the strong one all the time, you all need to support each other and sometimes it helps to hug each other and have a good cry together. I have cried so many tears, I beleive its a way of releasing emotions that you can not put into words. My thoughts and prayers are with you and keep in touch with the site as it does help.
Luv Dawn Williams
Maureen McKenzie
| 01 Jan 2011
Denise please know you’re in my thoughts and I care so much. It’s such a difficult time – everyone saying HAPPY Christmas, HAPPY New Year, and your world is so different now.
After my husband died tragically I wrote a diary to him, starting on 1st Jan. – there was so much I needed to say and share with him, I did find it helped. Must say sometimes he got a ‘serve’ too for leaving me!
Don’t hesitate to keep up the contact with others on here – I’ve found it amazing as they do understand and care. Warm caring Maureenx